I am forced to question, do all of the things women do to impress men even work? I mean, the endless trips to the beauty shop, the continuous shopping to stay stylish, the make-up, the effort...all of it. Do men even notice or care about all of this?
I mean sure, I know it helps the initial attraction, but do you notice when we change the color of our polish? Or when we have tried a different hairstyle? I'm not saying every little thing, but does it take something hug for him to notice a change?
Friday, October 31, 2008
If I Were a Boy....
Inspired by Beyonce's most recent hit, I decided to point out the things I'd do If I were a boy:
1. Approach the girl I liked, I've always wanted to be the aggressor as a woman, but couldn't muster up the courage too approach a guy, so as a boy, I'd do that.
2. Tell her how beautiful she is.
3. Spend time...alone. With just the 2 of us, doing nothing but just being in the moment.
4. Hang out w/the guys.
5. Ok, I'm a girl and I like it this way...I can't think of anything else! lol
1. Approach the girl I liked, I've always wanted to be the aggressor as a woman, but couldn't muster up the courage too approach a guy, so as a boy, I'd do that.
2. Tell her how beautiful she is.
3. Spend time...alone. With just the 2 of us, doing nothing but just being in the moment.
4. Hang out w/the guys.
5. Ok, I'm a girl and I like it this way...I can't think of anything else! lol
Tuesday, October 7, 2008
Top 5 Most Anticipated: Things I Can't Wait For
1. Beyonce's comeback
2. Maxwell's Concert
3. Love
4. The Recession to be OVER!
5. To get a job I love.
2. Maxwell's Concert
3. Love
4. The Recession to be OVER!
5. To get a job I love.
So is it ok to check his phone?
I know this is a BIG deal in relationships; is it okay to check his phone? And more importantly, is it okay to confront him about it?
See checking the phone is one thing, but when you find something that's not supposed to be there...then you have a predicament. The issue here is: you aren't supposed to be in the phone snooping in the first place, so how are you supposed to ask him about it if you know you were the first one to break the "rules?"
Most of the time women are so infuriated, all of this goes out of the window and the confrontation is unavoidable...but we have to be careful. Now this is not a guide on how to spy, but I will say that if you're going to be in his phone, you have to learn how to control yourself. I say this because once you confront him about it, he'll know you're a snoop and he will begin to live his life and do things accordingly. Such as, deleting information out of the phone (pics, text messages), and a common trick is to store a potential side-piece under a completely different name, usually male to avoid suspicion.
Back to the issue at hand: Are you right to confront him after peeking into his phone? Personally, I say no. I watch my Law & Order enough to know that in the court of law, this "evidence" would be thrown out and if no further evidence was presented, the case would be dismissed. You cannot illegally obtain evidence and then use it against a person. It is wrong. Now if a text message accidentally happened to be sent to you, or a foul message left on your line, then you have probable cause and can definitely bring out the lie detector machine! lol
No but really, I do not believe in all that. I feel like if you feel like you need to be all in the phone in the first place, that is your red-flag right there. RUN! If you're all paranoid and suspicious, your instincts are probably right. He probably is doing something you wouldn't approve of.
See checking the phone is one thing, but when you find something that's not supposed to be there...then you have a predicament. The issue here is: you aren't supposed to be in the phone snooping in the first place, so how are you supposed to ask him about it if you know you were the first one to break the "rules?"
Most of the time women are so infuriated, all of this goes out of the window and the confrontation is unavoidable...but we have to be careful. Now this is not a guide on how to spy, but I will say that if you're going to be in his phone, you have to learn how to control yourself. I say this because once you confront him about it, he'll know you're a snoop and he will begin to live his life and do things accordingly. Such as, deleting information out of the phone (pics, text messages), and a common trick is to store a potential side-piece under a completely different name, usually male to avoid suspicion.
Back to the issue at hand: Are you right to confront him after peeking into his phone? Personally, I say no. I watch my Law & Order enough to know that in the court of law, this "evidence" would be thrown out and if no further evidence was presented, the case would be dismissed. You cannot illegally obtain evidence and then use it against a person. It is wrong. Now if a text message accidentally happened to be sent to you, or a foul message left on your line, then you have probable cause and can definitely bring out the lie detector machine! lol
No but really, I do not believe in all that. I feel like if you feel like you need to be all in the phone in the first place, that is your red-flag right there. RUN! If you're all paranoid and suspicious, your instincts are probably right. He probably is doing something you wouldn't approve of.
Monday, August 18, 2008
Just to say "Hi"
With the unexpected loss of so many people lately it really makes you stop and think....our days are truly numbered. We can be here one day and gone the next. This is just a little reminder to take the time to call, text, email...whatever you do, to say "hello," or "I love you." I got in that habit long ago and receiving a text from me that says "I love you" is very common. When people do it to me it brightens up my day and I really appreciate it. The smallest things make a big difference. I know how precious this thing we have called life is and how quickly it can be taken away so after you read this pick up the phone and send that message or make that call...it's that simple. (I know I sound like an infomercial...but for real! :)
What time is the right time?
So my girls and I were having a little debate (what's new right?) and we began to discuss what time is the "right time" to go all the way with a guy. Now as juvenile as this may sound, it was very interesting to see the different reactions and opinions everyone had regarding the issue. Some believed that if the 'feeling' was there and it all seemed right after the first date that there was no big deal while others gawked at the one making this argument, voicing that the first date was much too soon for the home run. It's so funny to see how we all have these different ideas so I can only imagine how the guys are thinking and what they expect of a woman in a specific amount of time. We all came to the conclusion that there is no "right" time, and the real "right" time is when you feel ready.
I was thinking about it and of course with different people, one may have different desires, but the best way to make sure that none of this confusion penetrates the relationship (no pun intended) is to lay it all out on the table. When entering a new situation, the most important thing in my eyes is to be up front and honest, because whatever you start with is what you will have to maintain throughout the relationship to avoid any misunderstandings and potential trouble. This is what I think is the best bet in this area of dating...and any other area for that matter. Honesty is the best policy and if you can't be totally honest, do your best to voice what you expect, like, dislike and will not tolerate. Believe me....it's better that way!
So next time you meet someone don't hesitate when the convo takes this turn:
"Hi, my name is Jessica. Nice to meet you...does date number ___ work for you?"
Lol, no but really...put it out there. I think it's more beneficial in the long run.
I was thinking about it and of course with different people, one may have different desires, but the best way to make sure that none of this confusion penetrates the relationship (no pun intended) is to lay it all out on the table. When entering a new situation, the most important thing in my eyes is to be up front and honest, because whatever you start with is what you will have to maintain throughout the relationship to avoid any misunderstandings and potential trouble. This is what I think is the best bet in this area of dating...and any other area for that matter. Honesty is the best policy and if you can't be totally honest, do your best to voice what you expect, like, dislike and will not tolerate. Believe me....it's better that way!
So next time you meet someone don't hesitate when the convo takes this turn:
"Hi, my name is Jessica. Nice to meet you...does date number ___ work for you?"
Lol, no but really...put it out there. I think it's more beneficial in the long run.
Top 5 Things that make me say Ooohhh! (in a good way)
1. Beyonce's voice on a track, in the studio or live in concert
2. Dark skin against pearly white teeth
3. Poems that make me stop and think
4. Dancing with my friends and family to the latest hits
5. Seeing my mommy when I wake up everyday!
2. Dark skin against pearly white teeth
3. Poems that make me stop and think
4. Dancing with my friends and family to the latest hits
5. Seeing my mommy when I wake up everyday!
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