.....he will cheat on you.
I cannot say that enough. There are so many women out there who do not seem to know their worth, and it really disturbs me. Allowing less than treatment should always be out of the question. If a man or woman seems like they are not giving you their all chances are, they probably aren't. Some of the these women kill me allowing themselves to be the side piece* and thinking that one day the man will eventually come around and make you his main chick. Please wake up and smell the coffee, it is not going to happen. Why do you think that his behavior is exclusive when it comes to you? Why do you think that he is incapable of doing what he was doing to his then girlfriend to you? It's really mind boggling to me. I know that the reason most of the time for allowing this treatment is "I'm in love" but honestly sweetie, that is far from love. That is addiction. Addiction is defined as: the state of being enslaved to a habit or practice or to something that is psychologically or physically habit-forming, to such an extent that its cessation causes severe trauma. Perfect definition to describe the "love" so many claim to be in. In staying in the so-called relationship, you are blocking the real love that may be waiting for you. There is no greater tragedy than a love lost, or the opportunity for love missed because of something as silly as this. Know your worth.
The same applies to the "main chick" who knows she is not being treated as she should. If you are aware of the fact that your mate is not being faithful, and that is not something that you two have agreed on (open-relationship), then sticking around is not going to change anything. I am not speaking for minor indiscretions (which are still unacceptable) but if you are completely aware of the fact that you are being cheated on and you fail to address the problem, but rather sit back and just accept it, that is not ok. If you know that your partner is cheating on you, you are no longer in a relationship, you are in a situaation; and a bad one at that. Ladies, I see it way too much these days, DO NOT allow yourself to be the side chick and DO NOT allow yourself to be mistreated as the main chick. You are worth so much more!
side-piece: mistress; girl on the side
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I love this!! I have been reading all your blogs lately im only 16 but I must say in my young years of life I understand and see exactly what your saying and what your getting at with this blog. I agree women put theirselves to a low that is unnecessary. They should be treated as queens and not as some (excuse my language) sideline hoe. I know that im worth much more and ive heard stright from the mouth of a young male, he will treat the female with the same respect she treats herself with. I understanmd that If you wont treat you right then who will, and why should they. Just put yourself on a pedastole and wait for the one that respects you to come along and show you how you should be treated.
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