So my best friend asks me....

....if I would care more or be more upset if my boyfriend or husband left me for a man, or would it be the equal feeling of betrayal had he decided to be unfaithful with a woman?

Initially I feel like, of course I'd be more upset had it been a man, but either way, he has cheated. But I do have to say that I do think that the shock of finding out that the man I love is not even interested in woman would make me even more angry. I think this is because I would feel like I had been betrayed on more than one level. If he cheated with a woman, I would be very pissed, please believe me, but finding out that not only was he cheating but that it was with someone of this own sex? That would probably send me over the edge. I am aware that it is the same thing to some, cheating is cheating, but that would just be a little different for me. I would not be ok with it either way, but finding out that the man I thought was straight was gay would be a "double whammy," and a little much to handle while simultaneously finding out that he had a lover that was male. That's just my view on things? What about you?

Appreciate Life....

While I'm here on vacation in Cabo San Lucas I have really been on relaxation mode. Half of the time I have no idea what time it is, and frankly I don't care, lol. I love it down here, the lifestyle is so laid back and carefree. I have really learned to appreciate life, no matter how hard it has been or will be, knowing that I have amazing friends and family, I am content with that. I have had so much time for me while down here! I've read 2 books so far and floating in the pool gives me time to just think and reflect about everything under the sun. I love and appreciate life!!! So should you!

Top 5 Best things about Cabo so far.....

So I'm in Cabo on vacation for a week and I'm seeing so many beautiful sights!

1. The Sunrise @ 6:30 over the blue water and white sand.
2. The waves crashing so hard around 10pm that they feel and sound like thunder!
3. People in love on vacations or honeymoons.
4. The looks of the faces of my friends on the banana boat ride!
5. My new tattoo's! No...they're just henna! lol

Common Sense

This is what COMMON had to say in a recent interview and it made so much sense and really made me love him even more than I already do:

"That no matter how much you love somebody, you’ve got to love yourself first. If you’re truly loving yourself, you won’t allow some things to go down, and you’ll have boundaries. I was so in love that I gave up certain things about me, and that showed a lack of love for myself."

This is so true! And I feel like so many people really need to realize this. He went on to say that basically he had to experience this to learn that, so I know you really can't tell anyone something like this while they are in the relationship because in order for a person truly learn, they must do so the "hard" way. He was speaking on his relationship to Erykah Badu. Loving yourself is so essential to loving someone else. You cannot really love someone if you don't love yourself. Compromising is one thing, but completely losing yourself is another, and is a direct result of not really loving yourself.

Too Much Going ON!

I feel like since I have graduated, that I have been even busier than I was when school was in session! I am constantly on the go! And there is always something to do! I will be so happy when I get a moment after next week, I am fleeing to an exotic location w/white sand and clear water for seven days! I will most definitely take advantage of that and use the time for ME. It seems like everything that I've been doing lately has been for someone else. And not that this a a bad thing, but I have to learn to draw the line somewhere, or else I'll be feeling overwhelmed like this all the time! I plan on reading at least 3 book, getting 2 massages, and drinking just enough to relax me on this trip! lol The countdown begins!

Top 5 Reasons to Keep the Faith

1. You never know what's around the corner.
2. Faith is the only thing that keeps you going, w/out it who'd care about anything.
3. Being optimistic is always better than being pessimistic.
4. Good things come to those who wait.
5. Good deeds never go unpunished and patience is the best "good deed" these is.

How I'm Feeling.....

Heaven please send to all mankind,
Understanding and peace of mind.
But, if it's not asking too much
Please send me someone to love.

Show all the world how to get along,
Peace will enter when hate is gone.
But, if it's not asking too much,
Please send me someone to love.

I lay awake night and ponder world troubles.
My answer is always the same.
That unless men put an end to all of this,
Hate will put the world in a flame, (oh) what a shame.
Just because I'm in misery.
I'm not begging for no sympathy.
But if it's not asking too much,
Just send me someone to love.

Heaven please send to all mankind,
Understanding and peace of mind.
But if it's not asking too much,
Please send me someone to love.
HMMMMMmmmmmm

"Please Send Me Someone to Love"
-Sade

Just One

It is so hard to be optimistic in the relationship world when all you constantly see is the same thing over and over! I have yet to fall in love, but when I see other people who have done so, and it turns out bad, it's really discouraging. It reminds me of a scene from the movie "Baby Boy" when the mother tell Yvette that love can make you feel so high but at the same it can also bring you down and make you feel so low. It leaves me to wonder is it worth it? Do you have to go through all those hard times and live miserably, just to feel that good moment? Or just to have a few happy times. If the bad is outweighing the good, that should tell you something.....leave. It is so hard to put your trust into someone without that suspicion and lingering thought of infidelity and dishonesty. I know that not all men are like because that's impossible right? Well, you damn sure could have fooled me! I see the same problems in so many relationships! All these guys want to have their cake and eat it, along with the ice cream and strawberries too! It's absolutely not fair, and it is cruel to the woman who is giving her all and bending over backwards to make sure you are happy in the relationship! My main thing is, if you are feeling unhappy or there is a problem, break up before cheating on the side and take the necessary breaks that couples find helpful to an overwhelming relationship. It may not be easy at the time, but it will be much harder in the long run if it is not addressed sooner than later. So just like the quote above: I want one, just one to show me that they're not all the same.....