I am forced to question, do all of the things women do to impress men even work? I mean, the endless trips to the beauty shop, the continuous shopping to stay stylish, the make-up, the effort...all of it. Do men even notice or care about all of this?
I mean sure, I know it helps the initial attraction, but do you notice when we change the color of our polish? Or when we have tried a different hairstyle? I'm not saying every little thing, but does it take something hug for him to notice a change?
Friday, October 31, 2008
If I Were a Boy....
Inspired by Beyonce's most recent hit, I decided to point out the things I'd do If I were a boy:
1. Approach the girl I liked, I've always wanted to be the aggressor as a woman, but couldn't muster up the courage too approach a guy, so as a boy, I'd do that.
2. Tell her how beautiful she is.
3. Spend time...alone. With just the 2 of us, doing nothing but just being in the moment.
4. Hang out w/the guys.
5. Ok, I'm a girl and I like it this way...I can't think of anything else! lol
1. Approach the girl I liked, I've always wanted to be the aggressor as a woman, but couldn't muster up the courage too approach a guy, so as a boy, I'd do that.
2. Tell her how beautiful she is.
3. Spend time...alone. With just the 2 of us, doing nothing but just being in the moment.
4. Hang out w/the guys.
5. Ok, I'm a girl and I like it this way...I can't think of anything else! lol
Tuesday, October 7, 2008
Top 5 Most Anticipated: Things I Can't Wait For
1. Beyonce's comeback
2. Maxwell's Concert
3. Love
4. The Recession to be OVER!
5. To get a job I love.
2. Maxwell's Concert
3. Love
4. The Recession to be OVER!
5. To get a job I love.
So is it ok to check his phone?
I know this is a BIG deal in relationships; is it okay to check his phone? And more importantly, is it okay to confront him about it?
See checking the phone is one thing, but when you find something that's not supposed to be there...then you have a predicament. The issue here is: you aren't supposed to be in the phone snooping in the first place, so how are you supposed to ask him about it if you know you were the first one to break the "rules?"
Most of the time women are so infuriated, all of this goes out of the window and the confrontation is unavoidable...but we have to be careful. Now this is not a guide on how to spy, but I will say that if you're going to be in his phone, you have to learn how to control yourself. I say this because once you confront him about it, he'll know you're a snoop and he will begin to live his life and do things accordingly. Such as, deleting information out of the phone (pics, text messages), and a common trick is to store a potential side-piece under a completely different name, usually male to avoid suspicion.
Back to the issue at hand: Are you right to confront him after peeking into his phone? Personally, I say no. I watch my Law & Order enough to know that in the court of law, this "evidence" would be thrown out and if no further evidence was presented, the case would be dismissed. You cannot illegally obtain evidence and then use it against a person. It is wrong. Now if a text message accidentally happened to be sent to you, or a foul message left on your line, then you have probable cause and can definitely bring out the lie detector machine! lol
No but really, I do not believe in all that. I feel like if you feel like you need to be all in the phone in the first place, that is your red-flag right there. RUN! If you're all paranoid and suspicious, your instincts are probably right. He probably is doing something you wouldn't approve of.
See checking the phone is one thing, but when you find something that's not supposed to be there...then you have a predicament. The issue here is: you aren't supposed to be in the phone snooping in the first place, so how are you supposed to ask him about it if you know you were the first one to break the "rules?"
Most of the time women are so infuriated, all of this goes out of the window and the confrontation is unavoidable...but we have to be careful. Now this is not a guide on how to spy, but I will say that if you're going to be in his phone, you have to learn how to control yourself. I say this because once you confront him about it, he'll know you're a snoop and he will begin to live his life and do things accordingly. Such as, deleting information out of the phone (pics, text messages), and a common trick is to store a potential side-piece under a completely different name, usually male to avoid suspicion.
Back to the issue at hand: Are you right to confront him after peeking into his phone? Personally, I say no. I watch my Law & Order enough to know that in the court of law, this "evidence" would be thrown out and if no further evidence was presented, the case would be dismissed. You cannot illegally obtain evidence and then use it against a person. It is wrong. Now if a text message accidentally happened to be sent to you, or a foul message left on your line, then you have probable cause and can definitely bring out the lie detector machine! lol
No but really, I do not believe in all that. I feel like if you feel like you need to be all in the phone in the first place, that is your red-flag right there. RUN! If you're all paranoid and suspicious, your instincts are probably right. He probably is doing something you wouldn't approve of.
Monday, August 18, 2008
Just to say "Hi"
With the unexpected loss of so many people lately it really makes you stop and think....our days are truly numbered. We can be here one day and gone the next. This is just a little reminder to take the time to call, text, email...whatever you do, to say "hello," or "I love you." I got in that habit long ago and receiving a text from me that says "I love you" is very common. When people do it to me it brightens up my day and I really appreciate it. The smallest things make a big difference. I know how precious this thing we have called life is and how quickly it can be taken away so after you read this pick up the phone and send that message or make that call...it's that simple. (I know I sound like an infomercial...but for real! :)
What time is the right time?
So my girls and I were having a little debate (what's new right?) and we began to discuss what time is the "right time" to go all the way with a guy. Now as juvenile as this may sound, it was very interesting to see the different reactions and opinions everyone had regarding the issue. Some believed that if the 'feeling' was there and it all seemed right after the first date that there was no big deal while others gawked at the one making this argument, voicing that the first date was much too soon for the home run. It's so funny to see how we all have these different ideas so I can only imagine how the guys are thinking and what they expect of a woman in a specific amount of time. We all came to the conclusion that there is no "right" time, and the real "right" time is when you feel ready.
I was thinking about it and of course with different people, one may have different desires, but the best way to make sure that none of this confusion penetrates the relationship (no pun intended) is to lay it all out on the table. When entering a new situation, the most important thing in my eyes is to be up front and honest, because whatever you start with is what you will have to maintain throughout the relationship to avoid any misunderstandings and potential trouble. This is what I think is the best bet in this area of dating...and any other area for that matter. Honesty is the best policy and if you can't be totally honest, do your best to voice what you expect, like, dislike and will not tolerate. Believe me....it's better that way!
So next time you meet someone don't hesitate when the convo takes this turn:
"Hi, my name is Jessica. Nice to meet you...does date number ___ work for you?"
Lol, no but really...put it out there. I think it's more beneficial in the long run.
I was thinking about it and of course with different people, one may have different desires, but the best way to make sure that none of this confusion penetrates the relationship (no pun intended) is to lay it all out on the table. When entering a new situation, the most important thing in my eyes is to be up front and honest, because whatever you start with is what you will have to maintain throughout the relationship to avoid any misunderstandings and potential trouble. This is what I think is the best bet in this area of dating...and any other area for that matter. Honesty is the best policy and if you can't be totally honest, do your best to voice what you expect, like, dislike and will not tolerate. Believe me....it's better that way!
So next time you meet someone don't hesitate when the convo takes this turn:
"Hi, my name is Jessica. Nice to meet you...does date number ___ work for you?"
Lol, no but really...put it out there. I think it's more beneficial in the long run.
Top 5 Things that make me say Ooohhh! (in a good way)
1. Beyonce's voice on a track, in the studio or live in concert
2. Dark skin against pearly white teeth
3. Poems that make me stop and think
4. Dancing with my friends and family to the latest hits
5. Seeing my mommy when I wake up everyday!
2. Dark skin against pearly white teeth
3. Poems that make me stop and think
4. Dancing with my friends and family to the latest hits
5. Seeing my mommy when I wake up everyday!
Wednesday, August 13, 2008
"Me" Time....
It is very important to carve out some "me" time for yourself. In the past couple of years I've learned just how much of an impact taking some time out for oneself can have. You'd think that since I was an only child, I'd have enough "me" time by now right? lol
Honestly I don't think that one can ever have enough time for themselves, and any time spent alone allows reflection, organization, and peace. It is hard to realize what's going on in life if you are always 'doing.' It's very important to stop doing and just sit back and reflect. This may mean being sprawled out on your bed staring at the ceiling for an hour, alone with your thoughts; meditation (my first choice), going to the spa for a massage, or doing what you love to do (painting, writing, blogging, etc.)
Allowing time for yourself is probably the hardest thing to do because it seems like there is always something, but just like you go into your Blackberry to schedule various engagements, schedule some "me" time. At one point I was the person who was always doing something, never a dull moment and when I realized the way things were going I quickly stopped and changed that. I started practicing yoga and this took some time, but I learned how to clear my mind and meditate. It's one of the few things that I can say I do solely for me. Find that "thing" for yourself, it is so very rewarding, and even more necessary. Make sure whatever you choose to do in your "me" time does not seem like a burden or it defeats the whole purpose. Happy Hunting!
Honestly I don't think that one can ever have enough time for themselves, and any time spent alone allows reflection, organization, and peace. It is hard to realize what's going on in life if you are always 'doing.' It's very important to stop doing and just sit back and reflect. This may mean being sprawled out on your bed staring at the ceiling for an hour, alone with your thoughts; meditation (my first choice), going to the spa for a massage, or doing what you love to do (painting, writing, blogging, etc.)
Allowing time for yourself is probably the hardest thing to do because it seems like there is always something, but just like you go into your Blackberry to schedule various engagements, schedule some "me" time. At one point I was the person who was always doing something, never a dull moment and when I realized the way things were going I quickly stopped and changed that. I started practicing yoga and this took some time, but I learned how to clear my mind and meditate. It's one of the few things that I can say I do solely for me. Find that "thing" for yourself, it is so very rewarding, and even more necessary. Make sure whatever you choose to do in your "me" time does not seem like a burden or it defeats the whole purpose. Happy Hunting!
Excuse Me?
"What did you just say?"
This was my initial reaction to the person who made the comment I've heard one too many times before: "You look good for a brown girl!!"
Talk about a back-handed compliment. This is the most ignorant thing I've heard come out of someone's mouth and the funniest thing about it is that when people say it they think it's flattering! They believe that I am to blush and smile followed with a "thank you." Wrong! Usually I do not have time to address this and really school the person so I cringe and say the quick 'thanks' and get out of there. People: this is NOT a compliment or a clever come-on. What it is saying is that typically "brown-skinned girls" or "dark-skinned girls" are not attractive so it's amazing to you when you see one that is....that's not a compliment, that's an insult!
I cannot tell you how many time's I've gotten this in the past and when I was younger my warped, brainwashed mind thought it was okay. When given the compliment I did not understand it back then, but times have changed. No one tells anyone "You're pretty for a light skinned girl," I'm assuming because they are just expected to be pretty? Who knows....but what I do know is that this comment is very insulting and should definitely not come out of anyone's mouth.
Next time just say, "You're pretty." Leave the other part OFF!
This was my initial reaction to the person who made the comment I've heard one too many times before: "You look good for a brown girl!!"
Talk about a back-handed compliment. This is the most ignorant thing I've heard come out of someone's mouth and the funniest thing about it is that when people say it they think it's flattering! They believe that I am to blush and smile followed with a "thank you." Wrong! Usually I do not have time to address this and really school the person so I cringe and say the quick 'thanks' and get out of there. People: this is NOT a compliment or a clever come-on. What it is saying is that typically "brown-skinned girls" or "dark-skinned girls" are not attractive so it's amazing to you when you see one that is....that's not a compliment, that's an insult!
I cannot tell you how many time's I've gotten this in the past and when I was younger my warped, brainwashed mind thought it was okay. When given the compliment I did not understand it back then, but times have changed. No one tells anyone "You're pretty for a light skinned girl," I'm assuming because they are just expected to be pretty? Who knows....but what I do know is that this comment is very insulting and should definitely not come out of anyone's mouth.
Next time just say, "You're pretty." Leave the other part OFF!
Tuesday, August 12, 2008
It's been a long time....
....I shouldn't have left you, without a dope entry to read to, lol! Does that even make sense?
Well anyway, I've had TONS of stuff on my mind and not nearly enough time to write about it so expect an overload of goodies in the next few weeks! Honestly, I am not even sure if anyone reads this blog of mine, as I have not even made it known that it exists, but I will say that none of that really matters on here. This is merely a way for me to speak my mind and if you happen to pass through then so be it. I'd love for you to be able to come on here and read comment if you feel so inclined, but know that I am writing for me. Thanks! And enjoy!
Well anyway, I've had TONS of stuff on my mind and not nearly enough time to write about it so expect an overload of goodies in the next few weeks! Honestly, I am not even sure if anyone reads this blog of mine, as I have not even made it known that it exists, but I will say that none of that really matters on here. This is merely a way for me to speak my mind and if you happen to pass through then so be it. I'd love for you to be able to come on here and read comment if you feel so inclined, but know that I am writing for me. Thanks! And enjoy!
Sunday, June 29, 2008
So my best friend asks me....
....if I would care more or be more upset if my boyfriend or husband left me for a man, or would it be the equal feeling of betrayal had he decided to be unfaithful with a woman?
Initially I feel like, of course I'd be more upset had it been a man, but either way, he has cheated. But I do have to say that I do think that the shock of finding out that the man I love is not even interested in woman would make me even more angry. I think this is because I would feel like I had been betrayed on more than one level. If he cheated with a woman, I would be very pissed, please believe me, but finding out that not only was he cheating but that it was with someone of this own sex? That would probably send me over the edge. I am aware that it is the same thing to some, cheating is cheating, but that would just be a little different for me. I would not be ok with it either way, but finding out that the man I thought was straight was gay would be a "double whammy," and a little much to handle while simultaneously finding out that he had a lover that was male. That's just my view on things? What about you?
Initially I feel like, of course I'd be more upset had it been a man, but either way, he has cheated. But I do have to say that I do think that the shock of finding out that the man I love is not even interested in woman would make me even more angry. I think this is because I would feel like I had been betrayed on more than one level. If he cheated with a woman, I would be very pissed, please believe me, but finding out that not only was he cheating but that it was with someone of this own sex? That would probably send me over the edge. I am aware that it is the same thing to some, cheating is cheating, but that would just be a little different for me. I would not be ok with it either way, but finding out that the man I thought was straight was gay would be a "double whammy," and a little much to handle while simultaneously finding out that he had a lover that was male. That's just my view on things? What about you?
Thursday, June 26, 2008
Appreciate Life....
While I'm here on vacation in Cabo San Lucas I have really been on relaxation mode. Half of the time I have no idea what time it is, and frankly I don't care, lol. I love it down here, the lifestyle is so laid back and carefree. I have really learned to appreciate life, no matter how hard it has been or will be, knowing that I have amazing friends and family, I am content with that. I have had so much time for me while down here! I've read 2 books so far and floating in the pool gives me time to just think and reflect about everything under the sun. I love and appreciate life!!! So should you!
Top 5 Best things about Cabo so far.....
So I'm in Cabo on vacation for a week and I'm seeing so many beautiful sights!
1. The Sunrise @ 6:30 over the blue water and white sand.
2. The waves crashing so hard around 10pm that they feel and sound like thunder!
3. People in love on vacations or honeymoons.
4. The looks of the faces of my friends on the banana boat ride!
5. My new tattoo's! No...they're just henna! lol
1. The Sunrise @ 6:30 over the blue water and white sand.
2. The waves crashing so hard around 10pm that they feel and sound like thunder!
3. People in love on vacations or honeymoons.
4. The looks of the faces of my friends on the banana boat ride!
5. My new tattoo's! No...they're just henna! lol
Sunday, June 15, 2008
Common Sense
This is what COMMON had to say in a recent interview and it made so much sense and really made me love him even more than I already do:
This is so true! And I feel like so many people really need to realize this. He went on to say that basically he had to experience this to learn that, so I know you really can't tell anyone something like this while they are in the relationship because in order for a person truly learn, they must do so the "hard" way. He was speaking on his relationship to Erykah Badu. Loving yourself is so essential to loving someone else. You cannot really love someone if you don't love yourself. Compromising is one thing, but completely losing yourself is another, and is a direct result of not really loving yourself.
"That no matter how much you love somebody, you’ve got to love yourself first. If you’re truly loving yourself, you won’t allow some things to go down, and you’ll have boundaries. I was so in love that I gave up certain things about me, and that showed a lack of love for myself."
This is so true! And I feel like so many people really need to realize this. He went on to say that basically he had to experience this to learn that, so I know you really can't tell anyone something like this while they are in the relationship because in order for a person truly learn, they must do so the "hard" way. He was speaking on his relationship to Erykah Badu. Loving yourself is so essential to loving someone else. You cannot really love someone if you don't love yourself. Compromising is one thing, but completely losing yourself is another, and is a direct result of not really loving yourself.
Saturday, June 14, 2008
Too Much Going ON!
I feel like since I have graduated, that I have been even busier than I was when school was in session! I am constantly on the go! And there is always something to do! I will be so happy when I get a moment after next week, I am fleeing to an exotic location w/white sand and clear water for seven days! I will most definitely take advantage of that and use the time for ME. It seems like everything that I've been doing lately has been for someone else. And not that this a a bad thing, but I have to learn to draw the line somewhere, or else I'll be feeling overwhelmed like this all the time! I plan on reading at least 3 book, getting 2 massages, and drinking just enough to relax me on this trip! lol The countdown begins!
Wednesday, June 11, 2008
Top 5 Reasons to Keep the Faith
1. You never know what's around the corner.
2. Faith is the only thing that keeps you going, w/out it who'd care about anything.
3. Being optimistic is always better than being pessimistic.
4. Good things come to those who wait.
5. Good deeds never go unpunished and patience is the best "good deed" these is.
2. Faith is the only thing that keeps you going, w/out it who'd care about anything.
3. Being optimistic is always better than being pessimistic.
4. Good things come to those who wait.
5. Good deeds never go unpunished and patience is the best "good deed" these is.
How I'm Feeling.....
Heaven please send to all mankind,
Understanding and peace of mind.
But, if it's not asking too much
Please send me someone to love.
Show all the world how to get along,
Peace will enter when hate is gone.
But, if it's not asking too much,
Please send me someone to love.
I lay awake night and ponder world troubles.
My answer is always the same.
That unless men put an end to all of this,
Hate will put the world in a flame, (oh) what a shame.
Just because I'm in misery.
I'm not begging for no sympathy.
But if it's not asking too much,
Just send me someone to love.
Heaven please send to all mankind,
Understanding and peace of mind.
But if it's not asking too much,
Please send me someone to love.
HMMMMMmmmmmm
"Please Send Me Someone to Love"
-Sade
Understanding and peace of mind.
But, if it's not asking too much
Please send me someone to love.
Show all the world how to get along,
Peace will enter when hate is gone.
But, if it's not asking too much,
Please send me someone to love.
I lay awake night and ponder world troubles.
My answer is always the same.
That unless men put an end to all of this,
Hate will put the world in a flame, (oh) what a shame.
Just because I'm in misery.
I'm not begging for no sympathy.
But if it's not asking too much,
Just send me someone to love.
Heaven please send to all mankind,
Understanding and peace of mind.
But if it's not asking too much,
Please send me someone to love.
HMMMMMmmmmmm
"Please Send Me Someone to Love"
-Sade
Sunday, June 1, 2008
Just One
It is so hard to be optimistic in the relationship world when all you constantly see is the same thing over and over! I have yet to fall in love, but when I see other people who have done so, and it turns out bad, it's really discouraging. It reminds me of a scene from the movie "Baby Boy" when the mother tell Yvette that love can make you feel so high but at the same it can also bring you down and make you feel so low. It leaves me to wonder is it worth it? Do you have to go through all those hard times and live miserably, just to feel that good moment? Or just to have a few happy times. If the bad is outweighing the good, that should tell you something.....leave. It is so hard to put your trust into someone without that suspicion and lingering thought of infidelity and dishonesty. I know that not all men are like because that's impossible right? Well, you damn sure could have fooled me! I see the same problems in so many relationships! All these guys want to have their cake and eat it, along with the ice cream and strawberries too! It's absolutely not fair, and it is cruel to the woman who is giving her all and bending over backwards to make sure you are happy in the relationship! My main thing is, if you are feeling unhappy or there is a problem, break up before cheating on the side and take the necessary breaks that couples find helpful to an overwhelming relationship. It may not be easy at the time, but it will be much harder in the long run if it is not addressed sooner than later. So just like the quote above: I want one, just one to show me that they're not all the same.....
Saturday, May 31, 2008
The Pursuit
I watched Will Smith's blockbuster hit the other day and I actually loved what he said about the Pursuit of Happiness. It is the pursuit that is the most important part. Once you achieve happiness it's almost like...then what? The pursuit is what makes the state of the happiness worth while. Knowing all of the things you went through to achieve what you have is what makes it even better. The fact that you've earned it and it was not given to you creates a larger sense of pride and makes whatever you have earned even better, being that you know you have worked for it. This is probably so significant to me now because I have just earned my bachelors degree and I know how hard it was to get here. Without the late night papers (sometimes all night; no sleep), the impossible professors, and the struggle to get out of some classes, I would not look at my degree the same. It means so much more becuase of what I had to do to get there. The pursuit of the degree is what makes it what it is. Not the actual piece of paper I will receive in the mail in a couple of weeks, but the last four years of my life that have been dedicated to earning that piece of paper. It's all in the journey.
Top 5 Irritations of the week...LOL
1. People talking too much
2. Women underestimating themselves
3. Uncertainty of where I stand professionally
4. Awkward silences
5. Girls who stare for no apparent reason
2. Women underestimating themselves
3. Uncertainty of where I stand professionally
4. Awkward silences
5. Girls who stare for no apparent reason
One Day...
I love this poem, it is so sincere. By an anonymous author, as the great ones usually are.
If one day....
If one day you feel like crying...call me.
I don't promise that I will make you laugh...but I can cry with you.
If one day you want to run away...don't be afraid to call me.
I don't promise to ask you to stop...but I can run with you.
If one day you don't want to listen to anyone...call me.
I promise to be there for you...and I promise to be very quiet.
But if one day you call...and there's no answer...
Come fast to see me, maybe I need you.
If one day....
If one day you feel like crying...call me.
I don't promise that I will make you laugh...but I can cry with you.
If one day you want to run away...don't be afraid to call me.
I don't promise to ask you to stop...but I can run with you.
If one day you don't want to listen to anyone...call me.
I promise to be there for you...and I promise to be very quiet.
But if one day you call...and there's no answer...
Come fast to see me, maybe I need you.
If he cheats with you......
.....he will cheat on you.
I cannot say that enough. There are so many women out there who do not seem to know their worth, and it really disturbs me. Allowing less than treatment should always be out of the question. If a man or woman seems like they are not giving you their all chances are, they probably aren't. Some of the these women kill me allowing themselves to be the side piece* and thinking that one day the man will eventually come around and make you his main chick. Please wake up and smell the coffee, it is not going to happen. Why do you think that his behavior is exclusive when it comes to you? Why do you think that he is incapable of doing what he was doing to his then girlfriend to you? It's really mind boggling to me. I know that the reason most of the time for allowing this treatment is "I'm in love" but honestly sweetie, that is far from love. That is addiction. Addiction is defined as: the state of being enslaved to a habit or practice or to something that is psychologically or physically habit-forming, to such an extent that its cessation causes severe trauma. Perfect definition to describe the "love" so many claim to be in. In staying in the so-called relationship, you are blocking the real love that may be waiting for you. There is no greater tragedy than a love lost, or the opportunity for love missed because of something as silly as this. Know your worth.
The same applies to the "main chick" who knows she is not being treated as she should. If you are aware of the fact that your mate is not being faithful, and that is not something that you two have agreed on (open-relationship), then sticking around is not going to change anything. I am not speaking for minor indiscretions (which are still unacceptable) but if you are completely aware of the fact that you are being cheated on and you fail to address the problem, but rather sit back and just accept it, that is not ok. If you know that your partner is cheating on you, you are no longer in a relationship, you are in a situaation; and a bad one at that. Ladies, I see it way too much these days, DO NOT allow yourself to be the side chick and DO NOT allow yourself to be mistreated as the main chick. You are worth so much more!
side-piece: mistress; girl on the side
I cannot say that enough. There are so many women out there who do not seem to know their worth, and it really disturbs me. Allowing less than treatment should always be out of the question. If a man or woman seems like they are not giving you their all chances are, they probably aren't. Some of the these women kill me allowing themselves to be the side piece* and thinking that one day the man will eventually come around and make you his main chick. Please wake up and smell the coffee, it is not going to happen. Why do you think that his behavior is exclusive when it comes to you? Why do you think that he is incapable of doing what he was doing to his then girlfriend to you? It's really mind boggling to me. I know that the reason most of the time for allowing this treatment is "I'm in love" but honestly sweetie, that is far from love. That is addiction. Addiction is defined as: the state of being enslaved to a habit or practice or to something that is psychologically or physically habit-forming, to such an extent that its cessation causes severe trauma. Perfect definition to describe the "love" so many claim to be in. In staying in the so-called relationship, you are blocking the real love that may be waiting for you. There is no greater tragedy than a love lost, or the opportunity for love missed because of something as silly as this. Know your worth.
The same applies to the "main chick" who knows she is not being treated as she should. If you are aware of the fact that your mate is not being faithful, and that is not something that you two have agreed on (open-relationship), then sticking around is not going to change anything. I am not speaking for minor indiscretions (which are still unacceptable) but if you are completely aware of the fact that you are being cheated on and you fail to address the problem, but rather sit back and just accept it, that is not ok. If you know that your partner is cheating on you, you are no longer in a relationship, you are in a situaation; and a bad one at that. Ladies, I see it way too much these days, DO NOT allow yourself to be the side chick and DO NOT allow yourself to be mistreated as the main chick. You are worth so much more!
side-piece: mistress; girl on the side
Friday, May 30, 2008
There is nothing more refreshing than....
A BLANK CANVAS
I find great joy in a black canvas, and not necessarily a canvas per say; but anything I can write on. A piece of paper, a board, a "new" text message....anything that allows me to create. I am not sure what I will place on this particular blog, but I'm positive it will be something that serves as an outlet and a place of expression for me. Which is one of the reasons I chose the name "My Bleeding Pen," because I am constantly writing and m pen never stops bleeding onto the page. I thought it was different and attention-grabbing, although attention is not necessarily what I am seeking. In the tagline of the blog, I allude to the fact that writing is therapeutic for me, and doing so really does make me feel better.
I can have so much on my mind, but if I sit down with one of my many notebooks, and now this blog, everything around me stands still while I am in my world of writing...my therapy session. This will just be a place for me to write whatever I please, it will have no consistency, no particular subject, or theme...it will just simply, BE. Feel free to read it, as it is public; but be aware of the fact that it may not always make sense, and it will be random, but it's me. So as my favorite saying goes: Love me, or leave me alone.
Until next time.....
I find great joy in a black canvas, and not necessarily a canvas per say; but anything I can write on. A piece of paper, a board, a "new" text message....anything that allows me to create. I am not sure what I will place on this particular blog, but I'm positive it will be something that serves as an outlet and a place of expression for me. Which is one of the reasons I chose the name "My Bleeding Pen," because I am constantly writing and m pen never stops bleeding onto the page. I thought it was different and attention-grabbing, although attention is not necessarily what I am seeking. In the tagline of the blog, I allude to the fact that writing is therapeutic for me, and doing so really does make me feel better.
I can have so much on my mind, but if I sit down with one of my many notebooks, and now this blog, everything around me stands still while I am in my world of writing...my therapy session. This will just be a place for me to write whatever I please, it will have no consistency, no particular subject, or theme...it will just simply, BE. Feel free to read it, as it is public; but be aware of the fact that it may not always make sense, and it will be random, but it's me. So as my favorite saying goes: Love me, or leave me alone.
Until next time.....
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