So is it ok to check his phone?

I know this is a BIG deal in relationships; is it okay to check his phone? And more importantly, is it okay to confront him about it?

See checking the phone is one thing, but when you find something that's not supposed to be there...then you have a predicament. The issue here is: you aren't supposed to be in the phone snooping in the first place, so how are you supposed to ask him about it if you know you were the first one to break the "rules?"

Most of the time women are so infuriated, all of this goes out of the window and the confrontation is unavoidable...but we have to be careful. Now this is not a guide on how to spy, but I will say that if you're going to be in his phone, you have to learn how to control yourself. I say this because once you confront him about it, he'll know you're a snoop and he will begin to live his life and do things accordingly. Such as, deleting information out of the phone (pics, text messages), and a common trick is to store a potential side-piece under a completely different name, usually male to avoid suspicion.

Back to the issue at hand: Are you right to confront him after peeking into his phone? Personally, I say no. I watch my Law & Order enough to know that in the court of law, this "evidence" would be thrown out and if no further evidence was presented, the case would be dismissed. You cannot illegally obtain evidence and then use it against a person. It is wrong. Now if a text message accidentally happened to be sent to you, or a foul message left on your line, then you have probable cause and can definitely bring out the lie detector machine! lol

No but really, I do not believe in all that. I feel like if you feel like you need to be all in the phone in the first place, that is your red-flag right there. RUN! If you're all paranoid and suspicious, your instincts are probably right. He probably is doing something you wouldn't approve of.